Mike's Story
I met Mike Thompson in my office on a Tuesday. His eyes darted around the room, taking in every exit, every potential threat. A Marine who had survived three deployments, Mike was now losing the battle at home. At 32, his marriage was fraying, the alcohol was flowing, and sleep was a distant memory.
"Doc, I'm drowning here," he confessed, his voice barely audible. "But I can't let anyone see it."
This is the terrible truth I've witnessed countless times in my practice: our warriors return home only to face a new enemy—one that lurks in the shadows of their minds, striking when they're most vulnerable. An enemy that whispers, "You should be stronger than this."
While Mike is fictional, his psychological wounds represent what I see every day. His story is America's story.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL BATTLEFIELD
Let me be perfectly clear about what's happening to our veterans. The statistics are not just numbers—they are human beings in pain:
Seven percent of veterans will experience PTSD. Think about that. The same men and women who dared to face enemy fire now battle flashbacks that hijack their brains, avoidance behaviors that shrink their worlds, and hypervigilance that prevents them from ever truly relaxing.
Depression stalks 14-16% of Iraq and Afghanistan veterans, a silent predator that steals joy and purpose. Many Americans don't understand that depression can be just as crippling as PTSD, leaving veterans emotionally numb and cognitively impaired.
And here's what should shock your conscience: more than one in five veterans with PTSD also struggle with substance abuse. They're self-medicating to escape the torment. Every day—EVERY SINGLE DAY—17 veterans make the ultimate desperate choice and take their own lives. That's 1.5 times higher than the civilian rate.
This is nothing short of a national emergency.
THE WALL OF SILENCE
Why aren't veterans getting help? I'll tell you why.
The military culture—the very mindset that keeps soldiers alive in combat—becomes their prison at home. "Tough it out." "Don't show weakness." These mantras save lives on the battlefield but destroy lives at home.
Add to this the byzantine maze of the VA healthcare system and the crushing stigma around mental health, and you have a perfect storm of isolation. Forty-one percent of veterans need psychological help. Most won't get it. This is unacceptable. Full stop.
BREAKING THE CYCLE
I've spent decades watching broken systems fail the very people who sacrificed everything for our freedom. But there is hope, and it often comes from unexpected places.
The Help22 initiative represents the kind of grassroots intervention that can penetrate the isolation. It's brilliantly simple: on the 22nd of each month—a grim nod to the 22 veterans we lose daily to suicide—people reach out to the veterans in their lives. No clinical jargon. No forms to fill out. Just a human connection.
The psychological power of this cannot be overstated. For a veteran in crisis, knowing that someone truly sees them can be the lifeline they desperately need. For more information about Help22 and how you can participate in this vital mission, visit their website at www.help22.org.
THE ROAD TO PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALING
As a psychiatrist, let me offer some hard-earned wisdom about supporting veterans' mental health:
First, watch for the warning signs. Withdrawal isn't just someone being antisocial—it's the first step toward isolation and suicidal thinking. Increased substance use isn't just someone blowing off steam—it's self-medication. Giving away possessions isn't generosity—it's preparation.
Second, understand that seeking help isn't weakness for veterans—it's the ultimate act of courage. It takes more bravery to confront inner demons than external enemies.
Third, recognize that healing isn't just about medication and therapy (though both can be crucial). It's about reconnecting with purpose, identity, and community. The mind-body connection is powerful—meditation, physical activity, and spiritual practice can complement clinical treatments.
Finally, and I cannot emphasize this enough: Be persistent. The veteran who brushes you off today may reach out tomorrow when the darkness becomes unbearable. Your consistency matters.
The psychological trauma our veterans endure isn't just their burden to bear—it's ours. We sent them to war. Now we must help them find peace. Not just on Veterans Day or Memorial Day, but every day. Including the 22nd of each month.
The battle for our veterans' minds and souls continues long after the gunfire stops. It's a battle we cannot afford to lose.
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